Expectation shift

I wish to express my views on an often-ignored truth: it is our expectations from others — not people themselves — that most frequently hurt our sentiments. In our relationships, whether with family, friends, or colleagues, we tend to build silent assumptions about how others should behave, respond, or reciprocate. When reality does not match these unspoken expectations, disappointment follows. We then conclude that someone has hurt us, when in fact the root cause lies in the unrealistic hopes we silently nurtured. Human beings are diverse in temperament, priorities, and capacities. Expecting others to think or act the way we prefer is a sure path to emotional turmoil. This misconception is especially visible in today’s fast-paced world. We often expect instant replies, constant attention, or perfect understanding. When these expectations are not fulfilled, we blame the other person for insensitivity. In truth, people may simply be busy, unaware, or dealing with their own struggles. By recognising this, we can avoid unnecessary emotional pain.

A healthier approach is to communicate clearly, set reasonable boundaries, and accept that no one is obliged to fulfil every expectation we project onto them. When we shift the focus from controlling others to managing our own reactions, we cultivate resilience and emotional balance. This shift not only strengthens relationships but also promotes inner peace. In conclusion, sentiments are hurt less by people and more by the weight of expectations we impose on them. Learning to expect less and understand more can transform our interactions and enrich our lives.

Syed Abdul Hussain Shah,

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