On June 4, 1989, exactly 41 years ago, China’s military shot, killed and arrested thousands of pro-democracy demonstrators in Beijing’s Tiananmen Square. Tens of thousands of Hong Kong protesters came out with candles on Thursday in memory of the massacre, despite a Beijing-backed ban on their rally.

Yet Donald Trump, then a 43-year-old real estate magnate, praised the Chinese massacre in 1990. “When the students poured into Tiananmen Square, the Chinese government almost blew it,” Trump told Playboy magazine. “Then they were vicious, they were horrible, but they put it down with strength. That shows you the power of strength.”

The president clearly dreams of such unbridled powers as demonstrations continue over the death of George Floyd.

On Monday, Trump called Vladimir Putin, just before telling US governors by phone that they had to “dominate” or “look like a bunch of jerks.” Perhaps Putin encouraged Trump to use riot police to forcefully clear peaceful demonstrators from Lafayette Square with pepper spray so he could pose for a tin-pot-dictator-style photo op across from the White House. His arm raised with a Bible, Trump was flanked by his chief military adviser, in battle fatigues.

Or maybe, the president was buoyed by another Monday phone call with Brazilian president Jair Bolsonaro, a Trump clone who hints he’d like his military to take over the country. We know how Trump has repeatedly yearned for a military parade with tanks rumbling down the center of the capitol.

I have spent too much time in Iraq, Egypt, Turkey, Syria, Russia and China to confuse those realities with Trump’s reality-show pretensions. No matter the president’s military fetish, no matter how despicable what happened in Lafayette Square, it is not Tiananmen Square. That’s what Americans must remember and act on as we try to figure out how to move ahead.

That does not mean Trump’s fake show of toughness isn’t dangerous. A normal president would have shown compassion, addressed the nation about racial grievances, invited governors and mayors to work with him. He would have stood beside George Floyd’s brother Terence, who eloquently pleaded for calm, urging that the serious destruction caused by looters (including in minority communities) is “not going to bring my brother back.”

Instead, Trump’s response was to threaten the use of the 1807 Insurrection Act to deploy US troops to cities whether or not mayors and governors consented, an act that has been used only in the most extraordinary circumstance.

However, Trump’s military over-reach has been so egregious that it has stirred immense pushback, including from senior retired military officials. Most notably, former defense secretary and retired Marine Gen. James Mattis issued a broadside accusing the president of dividing the nation. “Donald Trump is the first president in my lifetime,” Mattis wrote, “who does not try to unite the American people — does not even pretend to try. Instead, he tries to divide us.”

Mattis’ criticism was echoed by former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs and retired Adm. Mike Mullen. Perhaps from embarrassment, Secretary of Defence Mark Esper distanced himself from Trump’s call to use the military to put down civilian unrest.

Mattis added, “We can unite without him, drawing on the strengths inherent in our civil society.”

This is what separates us from China, Russia and others, and the way their autocrats use the military to put civilians down. There is a US civil society that can push back against reality-show Trump’s military pretensions, before and during elections. The test for that civil society is now.